My blog
Thanks for stopping by to read my blog.
A couple weeks ago I was at a conference and heard Katherine Wolf speak. I listened to her as she spoke to a room full of therapists about her hopeful journey after suffering a stroke at 26 years old, a few months after her son was born, that left her…
In my book "Hope Beyond an Empty Cradle" I mention that I am not good at journaling; as you might guess I struggle with blogging as well...sometimes life gets in the way of sitting down to write. Anyhoo.... The other day (OK, like a few weeks ago) I was…
I was thinking about what I wrote yesterday and I think I didn't finish. I have other thoughts, but the one thing I want to put out there is this. We have to come to a place of forgiving God. It might be better worded as coming to a place of reconciliation…
As some of you may know I was in Texas over the weekend attending the Gathering Hope conference. It was a really great gathering for women who have suffered a child loss to come together and honor their children; it was room for moms to share about their loss…
Dear writers of Virgin River ~ spoiler alert You don't know me, but about 6 weeks ago I sprained my ankle so badly that I had to cancel my vacation. It was a bummer. But, so many people had recommended this show called "virgin river" that I thought I would…
I really wish I had more control over things. I have this belief that if people just listened to me more, or if I could just change people's behavior (me having control) that I could change the world, I could make all the bad things good, and create world…
Prolonged Grief?? ~ Recently the NY Times published an article regarding a diagnosable disorder that is newly included in the DSM-5-TR, and I have had a few people ask me my thoughts about it so I thought I would share a few of those here. According to the…
You guys, it happened again (I know, I said this last time).....but, it did! I came home from work last night to the news that someone in the community had died by suicide. Again...and again I was struck by the tragedy of the news. Someone I don't know was so…
Well, it happened again.... I had a woman contact me asking for guidance. Her kid, a teen, was talking about depression and suicide. Mom felt unsure of reaching out because she was unsure if this was a phase, or if the teen was being moody. She wasn't sure if…
This past year has challenged us all in a way that we couldn’t have expected. The uncertainty of what is happening, the stories we are hearing, the ever changing rules, and the mask fatigue. I have heard from so many people that they are experiencing anxiety…
As we approach October ~ or as the baby loss community knows it ~ Pregnancy and Infant death awareness month ~ I thought I would briefly talk about Postpartum disorders. In the time period after delivery the hormones are fluctuating, transitions are happening…
I have worked with a lot of women that, after grieving their child, struggle in their relationship with God. It isn’t because they believe God has changed, but because the way they view God does. For many, God becomes scary. Prior to loss, it seems easy to…
In my book I discuss triggers as they relate to baby loss. For a baby loss mom there are so many triggers that pop up out of seemingly nowhere, and often leave women feeling confused and sad. Some triggers are assumed ~ the due date of your child, birthdays,…
I was talking the other day with a woman who had read my book; she was commenting that she was struck by the idea of unsafe friends. She realized that she had some unsafe people in her life, and she found some healing in the loss of that friendship. In the…
Coping ~ We have all heard the term “coping skills”. We all have them, some of us have them without labeling them as coping skills. I mean, we have all had our fair share of retail therapy, right? Who hasn’t thought to themselves, “today was rough, these new…
Over the weekend I had the opportunity to spend the day with a few girlfriends. I was gifted the day at Disneyland to help a girlfriend celebrate her birthday. I was able to catch up with friends I hadn’t seen in a really long time (COVID), and I made a new…
How often do you think you compare yourself to others? Do you think it is daily? Hourly? Every time you jump on social media? Do you imagine the conversation you have in your mind could change if we worked to not compare ourselves to others? Maybe rather than…
I think that too many people carry the belief that they are “needy”. Isn’t it sad that as a society we have labeled having needs as being needy; as if that is a bad thing? What does it mean to be needy? Who determines how many needs are too many? I know that I…
Have you ever noticed how often you read someone’s mind? We do it a lot. We make assumptions of what the other person is thinking, and this sometimes creates conflict or adds to existing conflict. Sometimes our assumptions are based on history with this person…